Newspaper columnist and a minister George Sleival tells of a wife who came into his office full of hatred toward her husband. Fully intending to divorce her husband, she said, "before I divorce him, I want to hurt him as much as he has me."
Sleival advised that she go home and act as if she really loved her husband. "Tell him how much he means to you," he said. "Praise him for every decent trait. Go out of your way to be as kind. considerate, and generous as possible. spare no efforts to please him, to enjoy him. Make him believe you love him...then drop the bomb...That will really hurt him."
The woman exclaimed, "Beautiful!" And she did as he had suggested...with enthusiam, acting "as if" she loved him. Two months later she returned to Sleival, who asked, "Are you ready now to go through with the divorce?" "divorce!" she said. "Never!" I discovered that I really do love him!"
Actions can change feelings. Motion can result in emotion. Love is established not so much by fervent promise as by often-repeated deeds.
Sleival advised that she go home and act as if she really loved her husband. "Tell him how much he means to you," he said. "Praise him for every decent trait. Go out of your way to be as kind. considerate, and generous as possible. spare no efforts to please him, to enjoy him. Make him believe you love him...then drop the bomb...That will really hurt him."
The woman exclaimed, "Beautiful!" And she did as he had suggested...with enthusiam, acting "as if" she loved him. Two months later she returned to Sleival, who asked, "Are you ready now to go through with the divorce?" "divorce!" she said. "Never!" I discovered that I really do love him!"
Actions can change feelings. Motion can result in emotion. Love is established not so much by fervent promise as by often-repeated deeds.
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